Comments on: Think and Grow Rich test: Do you find fault with others? http://johndilbeckandfriends.com/2009/09/24/think-and-grow-rich-test-do-you-find-fault-with-others/ Observations and musings about things that tickle this big brain of mine... Sat, 26 Nov 2011 00:18:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: JD http://johndilbeckandfriends.com/2009/09/24/think-and-grow-rich-test-do-you-find-fault-with-others/#comment-241 JD Sat, 26 Sep 2009 09:44:27 +0000 http://johndilbeckandfriends.com/?p=339#comment-241 Good morning, Mitch. You bring up a good point about being a "quick judge of character." That's one of the skills that I don't have. I tend to trust people, sometimes much more than I should. I've learned to offset this by becoming more analytical and looking behind the scenes rather than taking what people tell me at face value, but I wish I was better able to get an instinctive feel for someone's character. A couple of times, I was burned badly by someone and I had people close to me warning me that I was making a mistake, but I just had no sense of that being true. As a result of these experiences, I started thinking that all people have a dark side and if I were going to be involved with them personally or professionally, I had to find it. That lead me to become more cynical than I like and I've moved away from it over the years. I still give everyone the benefit of the doubt up front, but I'm a lot more careful than I used to be before I get involved with them. As far as judging people, I don't think that is something I do much. The only people I really judge are the people I know personally. Either they become people I want to have more interactions with or people I plan to avoid. Act on your dream! JD Good morning, Mitch.

You bring up a good point about being a “quick judge of character.”

That’s one of the skills that I don’t have. I tend to trust people, sometimes much more than I should.

I’ve learned to offset this by becoming more analytical and looking behind the scenes rather than taking what people tell me at face value, but I wish I was better able to get an instinctive feel for someone’s character.

A couple of times, I was burned badly by someone and I had people close to me warning me that I was making a mistake, but I just had no sense of that being true.

As a result of these experiences, I started thinking that all people have a dark side and if I were going to be involved with them personally or professionally, I had to find it.

That lead me to become more cynical than I like and I’ve moved away from it over the years.

I still give everyone the benefit of the doubt up front, but I’m a lot more careful than I used to be before I get involved with them.

As far as judging people, I don’t think that is something I do much. The only people I really judge are the people I know personally. Either they become people I want to have more interactions with or people I plan to avoid.

Act on your dream!

JD

]]> By: Mitch http://johndilbeckandfriends.com/2009/09/24/think-and-grow-rich-test-do-you-find-fault-with-others/#comment-236 Mitch Fri, 25 Sep 2009 03:59:43 +0000 http://johndilbeckandfriends.com/?p=339#comment-236 You're right, John, it's kind of a difficult question to answer based on how it was asked. I'll answer it this way. As I meet people in person, I'm a quick judge of character. I don't go out of my way to find fault with people, but when the Spidey senses go off, I tend to listen after all these years. In general, though, I tend to like people, and most of them get the benefit of the doubt. Where I judge people is when I read the news, and let's face it, it's tough not to when you read about some of the stupid and absolutely terrifying things people do to others. Yes, those people I do judge, but I figure I don't know them, and thus I have no qualms about judging them. There's also that fine line in judging people whose beliefs are different than mine, and on that front, I work hard not to judge them on the first episode, but continuous episodes and I figure their actions are the source of my being either pleased or displeased with them. So, do I find fault with people easily? Overall I can say no; everyone gets a clean slate until they've treated me wrong, or I've seen something wrong. Unless they've been arrested, I don't even judge most people on what I hear, unless I can hear enough to calculate what their actions are. And I have to say I feel pretty good about that. .-= Mitch´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ttmitchellconsulting/hOlO/~3/RPM0JBkWbsM/" rel="nofollow">Laws Of Attraction</a> =-. You’re right, John, it’s kind of a difficult question to answer based on how it was asked. I’ll answer it this way. As I meet people in person, I’m a quick judge of character. I don’t go out of my way to find fault with people, but when the Spidey senses go off, I tend to listen after all these years. In general, though, I tend to like people, and most of them get the benefit of the doubt.

Where I judge people is when I read the news, and let’s face it, it’s tough not to when you read about some of the stupid and absolutely terrifying things people do to others. Yes, those people I do judge, but I figure I don’t know them, and thus I have no qualms about judging them. There’s also that fine line in judging people whose beliefs are different than mine, and on that front, I work hard not to judge them on the first episode, but continuous episodes and I figure their actions are the source of my being either pleased or displeased with them.

So, do I find fault with people easily? Overall I can say no; everyone gets a clean slate until they’ve treated me wrong, or I’ve seen something wrong. Unless they’ve been arrested, I don’t even judge most people on what I hear, unless I can hear enough to calculate what their actions are. And I have to say I feel pretty good about that.
.-= Mitch´s last blog ..Laws Of Attraction =-.

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